Kindergarten Misbehavior

Melanie Miller explains:

• Your son is likely energetic and enthusiastic—wonderful traits that can sometimes clash with structured classroom settings.
• Some children naturally stand out in a classroom; being “at the bottom” doesn’t define their potential.
• Consider his behavior at home: does he focus on play, interact well with peers, and manage his energy? Comparing environments helps identify patterns.
• Kindergarten may be challenging if it emphasizes long periods of sitting, listening, and seatwork without active engagement.

• Ask questions to understand his self-perception: How does he view himself in relation to the teacher and classmates?
• Recognize that children internalize how adults perceive them. Avoid labels like “troublemaker,” which can create self-fulfilling prophecies.
• Maintain a supportive, listening approach at home. Let misbehavior stay at school, and offer empathy when he recounts challenges.
• Have faith in his ability to learn and behave constructively. Reinforce his sense of competence and belonging.

• Increase your own parenting skills using resources like Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen. Share successful techniques with the teacher.
• Limit parental enforcement of school behavior at home; avoid sending the message that your child is a “problem” outside of school.
• Volunteer in the classroom or offer small supports for the teacher, such as making copies or preparing supplies.
• Meet with the school counselor to observe your child and suggest classroom interventions.
• Support the teacher as a partner rather than focusing solely on your child’s deficits. Collaboration improves outcomes for both student and teacher.